'Zuckerberg has repeatedly doubled down on the toxic idea that we should only have one self, one persona. That we should be the same person in all social circles, lest we be “frauds”.' - https://m.signalvnoise.com/growing-apart-and-losing-touch-is-human-and-healthy-52b5a678fbf5
I don't always see eye-to-eye with DHH but this article is pretty good
@hugo I had the sudden realization of the obvious this year.
FB creates the illusion that we are maintaining friendships. But keeping up with the events of (old) friends lives is not the same thing as keeping in touch with (old) friends.
Better to let people go and make new friendships -- or buckle down and make a phone call, or schedule a lunch date. Anyone I'm not willing to do that for, isn't someone I'm committed to calling a friend.
@hugo @benhamill was talking about this recently! i agree with this, especially the quote you pulled. i'd go even farther and say i'm not the person i was with the friends i went to school with, but i'm also not the same person with my coworkers that i am with my family or my irl friends or my internet friends, etc etc. i adjust for different social groups and different situations and facebook makes that difficult, to the point where i very rarely post any more because there's almost nothing that i want to say to the entirety of my fb audience